This is so important! It took me ages to learn that I can't FORCE myself to feel calm, centered, or aligned---these are natural responses to feeling safe. I don't feel safe when I'm being rushed or criticized or punished for my mistakes. I feel safe with consistent care and compassion that isn't withheld just because I'm struggling. I feel safe with boundaries that honor my inherent worth and humanity.
Exactlyyyy this! I love how you said this, " I can't FORCE myself to feel calm, centered, or aligned---these are natural responses to feeling safe." ughhh brilliant!
This is so important! It took me ages to learn that I can't FORCE myself to feel calm, centered, or aligned---these are natural responses to feeling safe. I don't feel safe when I'm being rushed or criticized or punished for my mistakes. I feel safe with consistent care and compassion that isn't withheld just because I'm struggling. I feel safe with boundaries that honor my inherent worth and humanity.
Exactlyyyy this! I love how you said this, " I can't FORCE myself to feel calm, centered, or aligned---these are natural responses to feeling safe." ughhh brilliant!
Thank you!